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Year 5 coming to a close…

Is it almost Summer already?!?!
Sigh…
Yes…how do I know the school year is coming to an end?
My inbox gets full of questions about homeschooling.
I don’t mind it one bit.  Every year I keep saying I am going to blog more often about our homeschooling lives.
In reality though homeschooling for us is just part of our everyday “normal”.  It is not something we wear on our sleaves it’s just how we chose to educate our children.
It “fit” us.
Ever wonder how it all started for us?  Here is a great place to start catching up on the beginning of our journey.

After that first year we knew that our family would probably never go back to traditional education.
Over the years it has just been our normal.
When I first started I thought you had to do this thing the same way they would get in school.  Right?
Sit at a table…lesson plans…curriculum’s…homework (isn’t it all “home”work when you are home?)…tests.
With a short few years I learned that wasn’t how my children learn.
We have merged into what I lovingly term “relaxed homeschoolers”.
What does that mean?
We definitely aren’t hardcore, by the textbook…grades, testing, lesson plan type of homeschooling family.
We are definitely not hardcore unschoolers…no textbooks, no tests ever, no lessons to even plan, let the kids do whatever they want.
We are somewhere in the middle of the extremes.  That is what “fit” my kiddos.

For years I worried that by being so relaxed I was somehow messing them up but it just fit us.
After all I have always let them lead the way on their education.  Haley didn’t read well until a few years ago but I knew she would get it in her own time….and she did.  They have a voice in what curriculum’s they want to learn from, what co-ops they would like to join, what sports and so forth.  We listen.
We have made this homeschooling thing a family affair.  They are active in their education and making choices.
So when Adam decided he wanted to go back for the last 9 weeks of 5th grade last year and make sure he wasn’t missing anything I was terrified he would be missing pieces and parts of education he would need.

Long story short he went back…
Loved the kids and teachers BUT hated the traditional learning method because he felt like he had already studied just about everything they put in front of him.  Down to the Science book he had already read and completed.  He was bored.
Math was his one spot he was a bit “behind” and even with being “behind” he was going to be put in the gifted program for it the following year.
He came home declaring he shall never go back…ever.
He felt if he stayed in traditional setting he would loose all freedom to learn.  His words.
When you have grown up being allowed to fall down rabbit holes learning about things that interest you….well that is when “real” learning truly begins.
Socially?  Always the comment that will garner the most eye rolls from any homeschooling family.
Why?  Because we are ALWAYS socializing.  Everyday.
Many of us live in our cars, on field trips, in co-ops, art classes, dance, Minecraft class (yes there are even HS classes for such things), etc….
Oh sure…there are those homeschooling families who do this to isolate their children from the world and teach their own ideologies but it’s been my experience that is a group we seldom, if ever, see.
Why?  Because those aren’t the reasons we homeschool…like minded folks find like minded folks.
I don’t believe in isolating my children or sheltering them from the world,  actually we do the opposite.
These kids have experienced more of “the world” than any of their traditional school counter parts.  Can you say 40,000 miles on my van in a year?
They can have a good conversation with anyone they come across.  They do act older than their school counterparts somedays…but I am not sure if it is that they “act older” or they are just in a much calmer state since they are around calmness most days?
I am no pro in that department…just an observation.
Haley’s birthday party was a straight split down the middle of homeschool kids and traditional school kids.  She gets along with both just fine and values all of their friendships.  Homeschooling hasn’t “socially stunted” them at all….BUT we have made sure to give them tons of interaction with other kids.  Maybe that is the key to raising socially successful homeschoolers?
Making sure they have those opportunities to get out into the world often.

If I had to sum up my favorite reasons “why” I love homeschooling it would look something like this:

  • It’s relaxing for us…no waking up at 6am and doing a mad dash to get everyone ready and out the door.
  • Not spending 2-3 hours a night on homework after not seeing them ALL day…I would feel like I missed so much of their day.
  • Watching my kids decide they want to learn something and figuring out ways in which to learn it.
  • Family time…I really “know” my kids.  Really.  I am with them everyday all day.  They know all about me too.
  • Their ability to bond with Lucas even with such an age gap.  Wouldn’t happen so well if they were away all day.
  • How well we all get along.  Kids are best friends (this is not the norm but for us…it is)…no fighting.  It’s peaceful here.
  • No rebellions (yet)…again it may come one day but there is just nothing to “rebel” against.  We listen…they listen.
  • Being able to foster the talents they have.  Extra lessons in art, dance, computer programming etc…we have extra time.
  • Friendships with other moms going through the same.  I have met some of the most amazing woman.  Seriously amazing.
  • I learn something new….right along with them…everyday.

That about sums up why and how we are still doing this homeschooling thing.
Come on year 6!  It’s gonna be a good one!
Now to order our end of the year tests we have to do for the county!  Such a slacker!  We are normally finished up by now:-)

How about a picture from last weeks homeschool “Arts in the park” day for South of the James group?
Each child picks an “art” that they bring to the park and work on or share with the others.
Adam is my computer guy so I asked him “What do you want to try and work on?”
To which he answered “I want to make a map.”
So cartography it was…and yes we had to Google to find out what map makers are called and we fell down a rabbit hole learning about map making.  That is the way homeschooling goes.
Random and fun:-)

 

 

  

Sara - Thank you for sharing so much about your homeschooling journey. At this point we are planning to homeschool our now 7 month old once it is time, but I often wonder how it will go when we get there. We seem to be approaching it from a similar standpoint and I’ve found some local homeschooling groups that are nonsecular to look into when the time comes. Hearing stories like yours is inspiring.April 30, 2013 – 10:35 pm

Tisha - Anytime Sara! I love sharing with folks how our journey has gone over the years :-) I went to my first homeschooling convention when Adam was 6 months old! I think I just always knew that it would “fit” us the best. There are lots of secular groups out there! The main group we belong to is secular and while many of the families do belong to some religion…it is a rainbow of beliefs. I prefer that for the kids! That is the real world after all. Many beliefs and learning to respect them all is important to us :-) At the heart of it all homeschooling families have the common ground of being on the different thinking side of the fence and hence we all tend to form this sortof strange family…lol!
By the time you little one and Lucas get to school age their will be even more families entering into this journey. Homeschooling is becoming very popular!May 1, 2013 – 8:21 pm

The “big one”…

Some see 40 as “over the hill”…
So how am I taking the big birthday number today?
Fantastically!  The way I see it I made it to the top of this crazy mountain and have this fantastic view!  What’s not to love?

Oh sure…I wish for a few less wrinkles…
A body that could manage to lose some weight.  Good Lord I eat fantastically healthy and the fluff is just stuck.  I call it the “I am officially 40 flab!”  That no matter how many sit ups there is nothing that works.  All good I am even ok with it.
It would be lovely to know what I am going to do with the rest of my life?  But does anyone at any age really know that answer?
What if the “rest of my life” is only a few weeks?  Why waste it on a life I am waiting on when I already have a perfectly great one?
Mid life crisis?
I am most definitely going to have one of those…perhaps even two!
I think it is a right of passage written down as part of a must do “bucket list” somewhere?

The thing about 40 is it will make you sit at the top of that “mountain” and ponder the past behind you and the world in front of you.
It is not to be helped it is just how it is.
So the past…
I wouldn’t change a single thing.  I learned something from every life experience, mess up, tragedy and miracle.
Along the way I managed to do one thing extremely well.
I managed to learn to find “happiness” even on those most craptastic days.  Because we all have craptastic.
Trust me…I have had more than my fair share of them.
But somehow…
still happy…
still smiling…
still fighting the good fight that is “life”…

A few weeks ago I received an e-mail from a company who was seeking out “happy” people to help others learn how to be…well happier.
They said when they googled the word “happy” I was someone Google insisted was very happy.
Why thank you Google….I am!
And not in that fake, cheerleader type of way….in the “the sun is shining why wouldn’t I smile?” type of gal.
How is that for a legacy?  I will take it.  There are soooo many worse things that a gal could be known for.
A few years ago it would have been only photography…now it is so much more.

As the Spring has swung into full gear I am receiving countless e-mails, texts, calls and FB messages from friends and family wanting to share their gardens, healthy recipes and living.  Things they have started doing from listening to my rambles.
I want to change things.
I want my children to have the knowledge to grow their own food and if not grow it “source it”…cook it…preserve it…NOT live off of shopping at big box shops with crappy rows of crap food.
I want more for them 20 years from now.
The only way I know to work towards that is to share things as I learn them, do them…
“Be the change you want to see…” and all that jazz.

I have this voice…and some will always find it annoying…but I say what I think and  attempt to listen twice as much as I talk.
At 40 I think life is really just starting.  Right?
Granted my parents only lived 15 years past my 40 and according to the insurance companies that makes my stats for living longer not so good…after all how does one picture themselves as “old and grey” if they never saw their parents “old and grey” as the example?
The answer for me is “I don’t”.
That leaves me with this thought…always… “If I really only have 15 years left…what must I do with those years?”
Some think this a morbid take but since I view death not as an end but just the beginning it doesn’t really bother me.
We all die.  That is it.  No one gets out of this place alive.
So as always…I do what I always do…live everyday the fullest, happiest and best I can.  Thankful to be here.
I give kisses to my family…hug others often…and well my “list” is long of reasons and hows I am this way.
Figured I may just start sharing some of my “lists” .
Maybe it will brighten someones day?
If you need a copy for you ridge just go to the Fan Page and click “download”…print it out and stick it on the fridge.
Enjoy…I am off to bed…I have some celebrating with the family tomorrow!;-)

  

A stumble down memory lane….

The night started off simple enough…
Work on adding wedding images to the website then onto the biggest task of the day…
I had a client (one of my favorites) who realized that she just needed those priceless images of her baby from…oh 6-8 years ago…
See we parents don’t really realize how important the pictures of your babes are when they are little.
We’re tired…flustered…always wondering how in the world God decided we can pull of this parenting thing in the first place?
New parents aren’t thinking “Oh I best be good and get their pictures taken often and be sure to treasure each image.”
Remember that tired part?  When you are in the heat of parenting young kiddos you don’t think they will ever grow up.
How in the world would that whole “Growing up” thing happen to YOUR sweet baby?

So my sweet client of course wants those pics…especially now that he is no longer that little fella:-(
I go and dig out the hard drives from storage.  Yes..that is plural.
I have at least 10…ok maybe 20.
And the only one I really trust to still work is the very first one I ever bought in 2003.  It still works like a champ.
Trust me…they don’t build them like that anymore!
Anyhow…
I turn the darn thing on and get lost.
I tumble through the years of my own family and friends…

I started this love affair with my very first digital dslr (a Nikon D100) when Haley was around a year old.
I used the money my mother left to me when she passed away.
I always called it “her last gift to me”.
By far the greatest gift she ever gave me.  That and a good camera “eye”…she was a great photographer as well.
After tonight I have to say the last decade of my own family/friends images has left me with that feeling of…
“Good Lord I have had such a great life!  How did I get so lucky?”
I think I have been to every family/friends birth of babies, weddings, birthdays, snowdays just part of their life….me and my camera.
Perhaps my biggest gift to those I love will be these images…
Years and years…going onto to a new decade…of sweet images.

Here is my advice.
Take pictures.
Lots of pictures.
Keep them.
Save them.
Treasure them.
In the end it’s the images that will be left because your babies will be grown.
Images can capture a lifetime.
The good, the bad and the random.

PS~ I still haven’t found my sweet clients session.  Tomorrow I start on hard drive #2…fingers crossed I will find her sweet little fella somewhere on a hard drive that still works.

  

She must really trust us…

Because she KEEPS laying more eggs!!!
She is up to 5 now!  We are now using the garage entrance ALOT and with every peep we hear on the other side of the door we think… “maybe they have hatched!” and quickly press our ear to the other side of the door.
These chicks are turning out to be more exciting than Christmas:-)

  

Green is my favorite color…

Maybe…cause I kindof like blue, and orange and and and and…
Ok well today, as I kept rubbing my eyes from the pollen, I realized the trees are back to their full beauty and I swear it took a day to happen.

I took little man to the park today…
He is so darn tiny compared to those big old trees.

The cars are now yellow and I am hosing off the porch every morning hoping Lucas won’t touch it than rub his eyes….
That never ends well. Not long now though and it will just be perfectly lovely minus the yellow:-)